1. “Hookup culture” is the new dating.
In August 2012, Hanna Rosin wrote that hookup culture had “largely replaced dating on college campuses and beyond.” Cue endless debates about the emotional and physical consequences of casual sex.
2. Women are harmed by Millennial attitudes towards sex. In 2010, Caitlin Flanagan wrote that girls “reluctantly endure” hookup culture — a viewpoint echoed by many conservative publications. Flanagan expanded on this in her 2012 book Girl Land, claiming: “The men hold all the cards, and the women put up with it because now it’s too late… they don’t have a choice.”
3. Millennials don’t want commitment. Millennials are often portrayed as hedonists, skipping from one partner to the next and never settling down.
Let’s break this down individually:
- “Hookup Culture Is the New Dating”: I have to agree with this one. Think about the last time you went on a real date. By that I mean you met a girl, got her number, chatted her up, asked her out, drove to a girls house, picked her up, went to dinner & a movie, and then dropped her home. Maybe it’s because I’m in college, but this style of dating is out for “millenials”, it’s just not happening. We are the age on instant gratification. We are not the age of waiting 3 dates to see if a girl will put out. Formal dates have been replaced with texting, social media, and one night stands. The reason that this “hookup culture” is the new dating is because it ultimately serves the same purpose. You bring a girl home, and you have sex with her. If you enjoyed the sex and could tolerate her personality, you do it again another night…if all goes well this leads to a relationship.
- “Women Are Harmed By Millennial Attitudes Toward Sex: Nope. Wrong. This one contains maybe the most false line in the history of research with “The men hold all the cards, and the women put up with it because now it’s too late… they don’t have a choice.” Absolutely absurd. Has this guy ever talked to / pursued a woman in his entire life? Women hold 100000% of the cards especially when it comes to sex / “hookup culture”. The male brain is almost entirely consumed at all times with trying to get laid. Everything a guy does whether it is going to the gym, working hard in school / at work, dressing well, bathing, it is ALL to attract women. To say that these new views towards sex and hookups “harm” women could not be more wrong. These new views are literally the greatest thing that have ever happened to women in the history of the world. Think about it, back in the 1920’s when sex and hooking up was taboo women had zero influence / say in a relationship. Men ran shit. Well sorry gentlemen but the tables have drastically turned. Women know that they control us. They know we want what they have. So let’s cut this shit saying women are “harmed” by hookup culture.
- “Millennials Don’t Want Commitment”: I Don’t completely agree of disagree with this one, I just think they worded it wrong. Deep down even the most chauvinist, macho man in the world wants and instinctively needs commitment with a woman (or man, I won’t judge). The same is true now as it was 100 years ago. The only difference today is that people don’t want commitment as early. Take the generation before us for example; my parents were high school sweethearts and got married at 21 years old while in college and apparently this was the norm. Well not today. People don’t want relationships in college today and I believe it is directly related to the first 2 on this list. Hooking up today is easier and more acceptable than ever before. In the 1940’s if you saw a girl you wanted to fuck what did you do? You married her. Today? You send her a friend request or you follow her on twitter and hope she follows back.